I followed “The Secret” for 2 years and it nearly destroyed my life

The Secret requires that you never doubt yourself. It tells you that when you start to think something negative, there's a problem with you. About E-books AffiliateDisclosure Contactus Articles HowToForWomen AttractingMen AdviceforSingleWomen WomeninaRelationship UnderstandingMen HowToForMen AttractingWomen AdviceforSingleMen MeninaRelationship UnderstandingWomen Relationships DatingAdvice RelationshipAdvice MarriageTips CheatinginRelationships BreakUps HowtoGetYourExBack HowtoMoveonFromaRelationship ShouldYouEndaRelationship? StrengtheningYourRelationship Life EasternPhilosophy WesternPhilosophy Meditation MindfulLiving PersonalityTraits SelfImprovement SelfLove Society ToxicRelationships Spirituality Soulmates TwinFlames SpiritualSigns Reviews MasterClass Mindvalley RelationshipGuides Quiz Menu Wesometimesincludeproductswethinkareusefulforourreaders.Ifyoubuythroughlinksonthispage,wemayearnasmallcommission.Readouraffiliatedisclosure.   RightafterquittingmyPhDtobeginmybusiness,Icameacross“TheSecret”. Thisisasupposeduniversallawoflifeknownbysomeofthemostsuccessfulpeopleinhistory. Ifollowedthistotheletterforabouttwoyears.Tobeginwith,mylifechangedforthebetter.Butthenthingsgotawholelotworse… Butfirst,let’sgooverwhat“TheSecret”isandwhereitcomesfrom. TheSecret(andthelawofattraction):Thegreatesthoaxofalltime? TheSecretisbasicallysynonymouswiththelawofattractionandwaspopularizedinthe1930sbyNapoleonHill.Hewroteoneoftheworld’smostsuccessfulself-helpbooks,ThinkandGrowRich. TheideasinThinkandGrowRichwerereplicatedinthe2006documentary“TheSecret”byRhondaByrne. Thebigideainbothissimple: Thematerialuniverseisgoverneddirectlybyourthoughts.Yousimplyneedtovisualizewhatyouwantoutoflife,andwhateveryouvisualizewillbedeliveredtoyou.Especiallyifthosethingsinvolvemoney. Here’sthecatch: Ifwhatyou’revisualizingdoesn’tcometoyou,youdon’ttrulybelieveinit.Youneedtothinkharder.Theproblemisyou.Theproblemisneverthetheory. TheSecret–atleastasarticulatedbyRhondaByrneinherdocumentary—saysitworksbecauseTheUniverseismadeupofenergy,andallofenergyhasafrequency.Yourthoughtsalsoemitafrequencyandlikeattractslike.Energycanalsobeturnedintomatter. Therefore,thelogicalresult: Yourthoughtscreateyourreality. Ifyouarealwaysworryingaboutnothavingenoughmoney,TheUniversewillconsistentlydeliverwhatyou’rethinkingabout.Therefore,stopworryingaboutnothavingmoneyandstartvisualizinghavingmoney. Ifyou’reworriedaboutbeingoverweight,don’tlookinthemirrorandthinkaboutitallofthetime.Instead,starttoimagineyourselfhavingasix-pack. Unhappywiththetoxicrelationshipsinyourlife?Stopworryingabout.Don’tthinkaboutitanymore.Starttothinkabouthavingpositiveandfriendlypeopleinyourlife.Problemsolved. TheproblemwiththeTheSecretisthatitactuallyworkswhenyoustartpracticingit,atleastinthebeginning. That’swhathappenedwithme. WhyTheSecretworkedforme TheSecretworksbecausetherearebenefitstothinkingpositively. MayoClinichavesharedresearchsuggestingthatpositivethinkinghelpswithstressmanagementandcanevenimproveyourhealth. Healthbenefitsinclude: Increasedlifespan Lowerratesofdepression Lowerlevelsofdistress Greaterresistancetothecommoncold Betterpsychologicalandphysicalwell-being Bettercardiovascularhealthandreducedriskofdeathfromcardiovasculardisease Bettercopingskillsduringhardshipsandtimesofstress Theresearchersweren’tclearonexactlywhypeoplewhothinkpositivelyexperiencethesehealthbenefits. ButIcantellyoufrommypersonalexperiencethatpositivethinkinghelpedmetotakechargeofmyhealthandoutlook. Ihadjustbegunabusinessanditwasanincrediblystressfultime.Iwastryingtoraisecapitalfrominvestorsandwascontinuallytoldthatmyideawasn’tgoodenough. ByfollowingtheadviceofTheSecret,Iconsciouslyignoredmyself-doubtandcontinuedtofocusonthevisionofraisingthemoneyIneededsowecouldbuildthebusiness. Thereweremanyfailuresduringthistime.Butultimatelyweachievedwhatwesetouttoachieve. Positivethinkinghelpedmetoignorethenaysayersandpushforwardedaggressively.Ijumpedovermanyhurdles.Wegotthereintheend. However,therewasadarksidetoTheSecretthatwaslurkingunderthesurfaceofmyoutwardlypositivethoughts.Mysub-consciouswasn’tsoeasilyconvincedaboutallofthispositivethinking. TherewasagapbetweentherealityIwasthinkingaboutandwhatwashappeningontheground. Somethinghadtogive. TheSecretcanscrewupyourlife.Itscrewedupmine. TheSecretrequiresthatyouneverdoubtyourself.Ittellsyouthatwhenyoustarttothinksomethingnegative,there’saproblemwithyou. It’sadangerouswaytolivelife.Ifyouweregoingforawalkinthejungleandyouheardthehissofasnakeinthebushesnearby,wouldyouignorethefeelingsoffearthatwouldimmediatelystrike? Idon’tthinkso. Youwouldembracethefearandstandatfullalerttosaveyourselffrombeingbittenbyasnake. Thebrutalrealityoflifeisthatyou’llencounterthesemetaphoricalsnakes.Youneedtohaveyourwitsaboutyou. Whenyou’reprogrammingyourselftoalwaysseethebestinpeoplearoundyou,youcanbehoodwinked. Thishappenedtomeinanumberofdifferentways. ThefirstthingthathappenedisthatIwasencouragingmyselftobedelusional. Wesuccessfullyraisedtheinvestmentwewereseekingandbuiltaproduct.Weweregoodatmarketingandprojectinganoutwardimageofsuccess. Wegotgoodpress.Lotsofgreatfeedbackaboutourvision.IstartedtodrinktheKool-Aid.Ibelievedwhateveryonewassayingaboutme. Yetproblemsstartedtoappearintheproductwehadbuilt.Usersencounteredbugs.Wewererunningoutofmoney. Ikeptontryingtovisualizesuccess.Self-doubtcreepedinandIpusheditaside,tryingtomeditateharder,visualizebetter. IwasoverlookingawholerangeofsignalsIshouldhavebeenfocusingon.IshouldhavebeenembracingnegativethoughtssothatIcouldstarttofixthingsinmylife. Itwasn’tjustinmyworklifethatTheSecretandthelawofattractionwasdoingmedamage. Itwashappeninginmypersonallifeaswell. IknewthatIwantedtofindaromanticpartnertosharemylifewith.ItriedtouseTheSecrettomakethisareality. Ivisualizedtheperfectwoman.Attractive,kind,generousandspontaneous.Icontinuedtofocusonhereveryday.Iknewwhatshelookedlike.IwouldrecognizeherwhenIfoundher. Istartedtomeetsomeprettyincrediblewomen,buttheyneverliveduptotheimageIcreatedinmyhead.Somethingwasalwayswrongwiththem. SoImovedon,awaitingmyperfectmatch. Anythoughtsquestioningmybehaviorwouldbepushedaside.Iwouldsimplyfocusonmynextcreativevisualizationsession. Ididn’trealizeitatthetime,butmydelusionalpositivethinkingwasstoppingmefromseeingwarningsignsinmylife. Ishouldhaverecognizedearlierthatthebusinesswasintrouble. IalsoshouldhavehadmorerespectfortheinevitableimperfectionsinthewomenIwasdating. Atsomepoint,Ineededtocometotermswiththestrugglesandfailuresinmylife.Ineededtoembracewhatwasreallyhappening–wartsandall. Givinguppositivityforbeingcontentandrational ThetimecamewhereIwasforcedtorecognizereality. Ihadtoconfrontmychallengesheadon. Ineededtoactuallybuildabusinessthatgeneratedrevenueandprovidedvalueforcustomers. Thisisn’teasywork.Itrequiresakindofdoggednessanddeterminationtocontinuelearningthroughallofthechallenges. Ratherthanvisualizingextraordinarysuccess,Ineededtofocusontheshort-termanddothingsstepbystep. Changingyourlifeisn’teasy.Ihaven’tachievedanythingyet.It’salifelongprocess. Butthisisthepoint.It’snotmeanttobeeasytolivethelifeofyourdreams. There’sakindofpeacethatcomesfromembracingwhat’snegativeinyourlife.Itmeansyoucanfacethechallengeswitheyeswideopenratherthanrunningawayfromyourproblems. Youearntherespectofpeoplearoundyou.Paradoxically,youattractintoyourlifesomeincrediblepeoplewhoarecontentandcanthinkrationally. Whenyouarealwaystryingtovisualizepositivethingshappening,youattractsimilarlydelusionalpeople. Youbecomeanarcissistandattractmorenarcissistsintoyourlife. Abubbleiscreatedandit’sgoingtoburstoneday. Canarelationshipcoachhelpyoutoo? Ifyouwantspecificadviceonyoursituation,itcanbeveryhelpfultospeaktoarelationshipcoach. Iknowthisfrompersonalexperience… Afewmonthsago,IreachedouttoRelationshipHerowhenIwasgoingthroughatoughpatchinmyrelationship.Afterbeinglostinmythoughtsforsolong,theygavemeauniqueinsightintothedynamicsofmyrelationshipandhowtogetitbackontrack. Ifyouhaven’theardofRelationshipHerobefore,it’sasitewherehighlytrainedrelationshipcoacheshelppeoplethroughcomplicatedanddifficultlovesituations. Injustafewminutesyoucanconnectwithacertifiedrelationshipcoachandgettailor-madeadviceforyoursituation. Iwasblownawaybyhowkind,empathetic,andgenuinelyhelpfulmycoachwas. Clickheretogetstarted. Didyoulikemyarticle?LikemeonFacebooktoseemorearticleslikethisinyourfeed. Ico-foundedIdeapod,adigitalmediaplatformthatprovidescommentaryontheideasshapingourlives.Toseemylatestwork,followmeonFacebook. MoreFrom:MindfulLiving Nextpost HackSpiritisoneoftheleadingauthoritiesprovidingpracticalandaccessiblerelationshipadvice.ItwasfoundedbyLachlanBrownin2016. ©HackSpirit.Allrightsreserved.Thematerialonthissitemaynotbereproduced,distributed,transmitted,cachedorotherwiseused,exceptasexpresslypermittedinwritingbyBrownBrothersMediaPte.Ltd. 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